Planning Free Time Activities to Make New Friends: Tips for Introverts and Extroverts
Updated: Feb 3
We all want to enjoy our free time and make new friends. The key is to socialize the way that best suits your personality. And one of the tricks here is to find out if you're more of an extrovert or introvert.
Extrovert or Introvert?
One question you can ask yourself: “How do I recharge my batteries and feel energized?” Spend time alone, create a space for yourself to deep-dive into your thoughts for new ideas? Introvert detected! Go out, get social and see what other people do for motivation? So extrovert of you, mate!
Even if you're 110 % sure about your personality type, do have a look at both lists. See if any of the ideas spark your imagination. Plus, you can better understand how to make your extrovert or introvert friend happy!
How to Enjoy Social Activities as an Introvert
You know that introverts do need real friends. Not all of us are shy, really. It's just too many people around can be overwhelming. The point is to find people who share your interests. The people whose eyes light up when you talk about your vision. The people who are comfortable with saying more with fewer words.
So, how do you socialize AND enjoy your free time as an introvert?
Here are our tips:
* Sign up for a course or a workshop
Ideally, the one that stretches over a few evenings/weekends, so that you can get to know the people. The perks? Obviously, you're more likely to meet people with the same interests. If you meet fellow learners regularly, you have more time to develop a deeper, meaningful bond. And if not, you'll enjoy the course anyway.
* Visit a museum
Explore it on your own, or join a museum tour. Most museum experts are very interesting people, who know their stuff inside out. The tours are often organized to include relevant info with minimum babbling and distractions. If the topic fascinates you, you can join a discussion after the event, get answers to your questions and share your thoughts with close friends afterwards.
* Attend a volunteer event
You will feel great about making a contribution, and there's no pressure to draw attention to yourself. It's satisfying to do the best you can to help. People whom you meet there all gather for a good cause, so if feels great to be part of that group. There's a double satisfaction if you combine volunteering with your interest - for example, offer your help at an animal shelter or a local library.
Finally: Be honest, do you love people watching as we do? Any social event can be fun when you discover (sketch? note down?) the many interests and quirks people have. That's some fuel for your natural good imagination and creativity. So, next time, keep an eye on tiny details of the way people act and talk for inspiration!
Organizing Me-Time Activities as an Extrovert
Even hard-core extraverts do not necessarily *like* all people. True, we thrive being around people — and still sometimes we wish for special friends who "get us" better. Or, one day it's just you who wants to go out! On such days, choose to focus on you. Instead of going to meet a large party of random people who share very little in common with you, ask yourself: What do I really want to do?
* Join a group exercise class
You'll feel motivated by others around you sweating it off. If you stick to it, you'll spot familiar faces soon. These are the most committed ones, just like you! Approach them after the workout session — who knows, it can be your best mate here. And you`re finally getting in good shape, what's not to love?
* Gamify it
You'll focus more on the game and learn something new. And it doesn't have to be a sport. For example, join a debate club or a board game night. Feel the team spirit and discover your strengths. Often, you'll find yourself closer to your opponents, when you've just had a lively battle.
* Go for a solo walk in nature, to a new place
It can work wonders to brighten your mood. You'll still be around people, if your feet lead you to a park or a garden. Take a camera with you and literally change your perspective as you find new angles and scenic spots. Ready for another level challenge? Head to a really wild, remote place. Sketch and document your experience. New stories to share guaranteed.
Final tip: Having options for free time is usually exciting for you, right? When you have to go on your own, be open to different ideas. Ask your friends for advice — even when they don't feel like going out, they can share new places for you to explore. If something doesn't work out for you, don't despair! you're still coming closer to knowing the real you.
People often ask if you can become an extrovert (or introvert). There's an amazing new book (published in May 2019) that we can recommend. Jess Pan, a shy introvert (the author) challenges herself to live her life as an extrovert for a year to make new friends.
It's called "Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come: An Introvert's Year of Living Dangerously". A funny and relatable read about going out of your comfort zone.
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Whatever your way of having fun is, DO it. Be You. And you will meet people like you soon. We've tried it, it works ;)